Before doing research on emotional abuse, we couldn't really put our finger on the reason why Austin and Marcia's relationship seemed so off. We had no concrete reasons for our panicky concerns --other than a strong gut-wrenching feeling that this relationship was very toxic. We saw a huge change in Austin. He was just not himself. Austin had been raised in a loving family with good strong relationships. He had never been exposed to emotional abuse and was unfamiliar and confused by what was happening. He didn't understand what was happening to him. He kept trying to fix things, but nothing worked. He was literally trapped in the relationship, and was unable to get out. He was not himself and it scared everyone who knew him. Even once he started to connect the dots and could see just how unhealthy the relationship was, he still needed the support of friends and family to truly escape the relationship. Understanding the signs and symptoms of emotional abuse is crucial to helping yourself or a loved one to maneuver out of a toxic, abusive, and controlling relationship.
https://www.crisistextline.org/fast-facts/emotional-abuse
https://www.learning-mind.com/coercive-control-manipulation/
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/am-i-dating-a-narcissist#13
Emotional abusers often have distinct personality and behavior patterns. Once you've been exposed to these traits, you may be able to recognize them in future relationships before abuse begins. They are often self-centered individuals who lack empathy. They may feel like they have no control over their own lives and have a strong desire for asserting control where they can, including in their relationships with others. You can watch for the following signs to determine whether a person is a risk for coercive behaviors. Knowing these patterns can help you avoid entering an abusive relationship in the future.
If you see multiple patterns on this list in a person, you are at risk of emotional abuse.